Sunday, June 7, 2015

Memorial Day Weekend

On Memorial Day weekend, Julie and I decided to head down to our dad's for the three day weekend.  We don't go alone with the boys very often, so we though it would be a good opportunity for the husbands to have some "free time" and for grandpa to have some quality grandson time.

Trey wanted a family shot before we left. 

One of the boys' absolute favorite things about Grandpa's house is the trampoline.  We spent a lot of time out on the trampoline.  And I mean A LOT.  



Trey and Grady got a lot of sleep on Saturday night, but none of the rest of us did.  I joked on Facebook that this was a reenactment of how Julie and I felt all day on Saturday.  

Dogpile on Aunt Julie 

Cuddle time with "Baby" Case 

We headed up to the Leaburg Fish Hatchery on Sunday so the boys could feed the fish.

You can see the fish jumping out near Trey's feet. 

The boys may not look happy, but at least they're all looking the same direction. 

Throwing rocks in the river 

Back on the trampoline

The weekend was pretty mellow and relaxing.  I got some sort of stomach bug so I did a fair amount of resting but not a lot of sleeping.  The high point was probably getting a lot of reading done and having an extra day off from work.  It was also really nice for the three boys to spend a lot of quality time together and see their grandpa.

Wednesday, June 3, 2015

In training for hiking

Randy and I have always loved hiking.  We both hiked a lot before we met, and we hiked a lot when we were dating.  We hiked a lot all the way up to when Trey was born (or really, up to when I got pregnant).  What hiking looks like between the two of us is Randy about 1,000 steps ahead of me and the dog running back and forth between us.

Our first hike together in 2004
So young.  So skinny!

We have been trying to "train" Trey for hiking for a while now.  It hasn't really gone well.  As Trey says, "Hiking is just walking, Mommy."  He hasn't really been a fan.  However, lately, he has been more of a trooper.  If we can get him at the right time of day in the right temperature, he can hike (aka walk) on his own for up to an hour.  It also goes well if we tell Trey that we are "going on an adventure" rather than "going hiking."  I'm excited about what this means for family outings.

A few weeks ago Carmen and Doug came into town for Carmen's high school reunion.  We got to spend a little time with them on Saturday and more time on Sunday.  We met up at Mt. Tabor Park on Saturday and walked around.   I used to spend a lot of time at Mt. Tabor and I forgot how much I like it.


The city is in the background even though it is hard to see.

On Sunday, Trey and I took Grandma, Grandpa, and Randy to Noble Woods Park so we could do some more exploring.  Trey collected things to look at with his microscope, and Randy gave Trey some science lessons.



Julie happened to call while we were there and say she was on her way to the same park.  What a coincidence!  The boys had fun running around and throwing rocks into the water.




This past weekend we went to Tualatin River National Wildlife Refuge in Sherwood and did some exploring.  This was a day where we hit the wrong time/wrong temperature, and Trey was not that interested in walking.  To be fair, it was hot and he easily could have fallen asleep.  It was a cool park though, and I know we will go again.

Looking for wildlife

Looking at tadpoles

Looking at spitbugs

Searching under logs, one of Randy's favorite pasttimes

Looking in a stream

We stopped at a park on the way back home because Trey really wanted a play structure.  After we played for a while, Randy and Trey climbed around on these cool tree trunks.


On Sunday we checked out Stub Stewart State Park in Vernonia.  Trey was an awesome hiker this time and literally ran for the majority of the time.  I know we will go back to this park and do some more exploring.  We thought we might want to camp there this summer, but we checked out the campsites and decided against it.  I'd also love to take our bikes there and ride along the Banks-Vernonia State Trail.



Trey has also really been into science.  He wants to do science experiments and asks a lot of questions about things like DNA, molecules, and other things that I can't explain.  He says, "Daddy is a scientist.  He knows everything."  I hope that Randy continues to foster the love of science, nature, and creatures in his son.

Mother's Day 2015

Julie, Mom, and I on my birthday in August 2004

Alright, you guys know how I feel about moms and Mother's Day, right?  I don't need to wax poetic like I've done in other years (2014  & 2013 to name a few).  I love my mom more than almost anything else in the world (Trey is right up there) and I love my mama friends (you know who you are) and I love being a mother.  I love reading about being a mom, I love reading books by moms (Kelly Corrigan is one of my favorites), and I even, for some crazy reason, enjoy reading books about moms dying of cancer.  So let's skip all the awesome mom stuff and jump into Mother's Day 2015, shall we?

Trey was obsessed with doing a "funny lunch" like he did last year (inspired by Henry and Mudge).  He and Randy made a plan and went grocery shopping.  While they went to swimming lessons and went to the store, I sat on the deck and read my book.  Then my sister came over and we drank mimosas and enjoyed the sunny morning.  We reminisced about our mom and it was perfect.

Trey and his "funny lunch"

That afternoon Randy had a major conflict - spend time with his wife and son on Mother's Day or watch the Bulls-Cavs basketball game in the finals.  Luckily, he has the most understanding wife ever, and I went and spent the afternoon on my own with Trey so Randy could watch the game.   We went to sushi with Kris and then went to explore Noble Woods park.  This is a great park for Trey and I to "practice" hiking, and we walked the trails for almost an hour.  It was awesome!

My hiker in the making


Trey was looking for all sorts of exciting things around the park, and here are some of his finds:

A stick!

A leaf!

Another stick!

"Look, Mommy!  A rock!!!"

That night Randy made a delicious dinner of grilled salmon (for me) and steak (for him) with corn on the cob.  We enjoyed a nice bottle of wine and toasted to all of the wonderful mothers out there.  Okay, I'm kidding, we didn't really make that toast, but we should have.

Here's Trey's most recent "All About Mom" list from preschool.  I was finally called out in public for drinking in front of my son.  Yikes.  However, my favorite part was I got a text that night from one of Trey's friend's moms from preschool and her page said the same thing.  The boys were sitting next to each other, I am sure.

And Egypt?  WTF?  I think that's because we just read a book about Flat Stanley going to Egypt.

Monday, May 4, 2015

The rest of April plus what I've been reading

I cannot believe it is May and we have six weeks of school left.  I cannot believe it.  April was a blur and most of the weeks flew by and then the weekends flew by even faster.  The weekends we had in April were awesome - a perfect blend of social time, down time, and productive time.

Randy and I have started a new ritual...Margarita Monday.  Okay, we've only done it twice, but we should really make it a weekly thing.


Last year, about this time, when I was trying to decide what to do after I left the Eval Center, I really dreaded going back to the resource room.  I remember, clearly, when my new principal called before offering me the job and asked, "Do you really want this job?"  I wanted to scream, "NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!" but, of course, that's not a great thing to say to your new potential boss.   This year in my new role has been quite difficult for a variety of reasons, but spring as a special ed teacher really illustrates why I was so depressed/mad/dreadful about going back to the building level.  And I will say that this spring has met every one of my expectations about why I dreaded (dread) my new job.  The work load is truly unmanageable and the stress is constant.  I think the worst part, for me, is constantly feeling like I'm not doing a good job.

On that note, I have decided to go back to school to be a school psychologist.  I will return to school this fall taking five full time terms of coursework and then a year long internship through an online program at Eastern Washington University.  It's going to be a very busy two years, but I am excited about the change of career and hoping that the outcome will be two part: continuing to do good programming for kids and not complaining as much about my job.

One of the things I miss the very most about my old job, of which there are many, is Kerry.  Kerry and I spent a lot of time together during the week and communicated several (and I mean SEVERAL) times throughout the work day.  Since I've moved to McMinnville and her job has also changed, we don't communicate nearly as often nor see each other very much.  It's pretty sad.  A few weeks ago (don't you feel like everything happened a few weeks ago?), we met at Breakside Brewery, our old stomping grounds in Milwaukie, for beers, and it was a beautiful thing.

Cheers!

One night as we were about to get ready for bed, Trey said, "Mommy, what's DNA?"  I said, "Well, that's a question for your daddy.  He's a scientist, you know."   And Trey said, "Oh, I know. He knows everything."

Apparently, Randy needed some help from YouTube to explain DNA.  
Here is Trey demonstrating his understanding.

I really love weekends.  Like practically live for them.  And one of my favorite things about weekends is my mornings with Trey.  We usually sleep in (which means until about 7) and then watch a show.  Sometimes I watch, sometimes I read, and sometimes I doze off.  But what I treasure more than anything is the quiet special time with my boy.

Saturday morning cartoons

Trey has made some really good buddies at his preschool, and I know he is going to miss them a lot when he leaves daycare at the beginning of this summer (I'm going to miss daycare too).  I'm hoping we can stay in touch with a handful of the boys who Trey has spent the last 2.5 years with on a 10 hour a day basis.

Ryland, Everett, and Trey at Everett's birthday party

A few weeks ago we had Trey's kindergarten orientation meeting.  While I don't get the greatest vibe from his school, it is supposed to be a good-enough school and that is fine with me.  I think what I want most is for him to have a good teacher and make some good friends.  I was just happy I didn't cry during orientation.  How is it possible he's going to school next year???

On our way into Trey's new school

That week we had a celebration of life to attend of a family member who died too young due to complications of Alagille Syndrome.  My dad and Sandy came up for it, and we went out to happy hour before the celebration.  It was fun to be together without the kids and have some grown up conversation, and it was also nice to arrive in force to support our distant family.  

I chose Wanker's Corner (aka Corner Saloon) so we could sit outside on the beautiful sunny day, but it was under construction so we were stuck inside.  Hmph.

Trey had the idea to make slime, so he and Randy made some...perfect home idea - not messy, super fun, and easy to make.  Just don't put it on cloth.


Trey and his slime

My school had spirit week and each day we were supposed to dress up to follow a theme.  I skipped a few of them, but I did dress up as a super hero.  Thank goodness for four year old boys with super hero costumes.

Batman and Robin - fighting every day to build the math skills of fifth graders.

One sunny Saturday, Julie and I left the little boys with a sitter and took the big boys wine tasting out in the Gorge.  We went to Cor Cellars first to pick up our shipment and then went to Hood River.  We walked around downtown and hit a few wine tasting rooms and had lunch at Full Sail.  It was a great afternoon away from the kids, and they had a great time with each other.



Trey and Case doing karate moves

The boys in the sun painting

Julie and Grady

Last Monday Adam was in town and we went to dinner at Departure.  It was a beautiful day and we had a beer out on the rooftop bar before having dinner.  Being outside on a gorgeous Portland spring day with my husband and good friend was just perfect.  And the dinner was pretty delicious too.




I've been doing a lot of reading lately and have some great books to tell you about.  I've been on a good run that was just cut short by a book I stopped midway through.  And let me tell you, when I quit a book after investing 150 pages into it, you know it's bad.  Luckily, I read some great ones before and am on a good one now.


One of the best books I've read in a long time is Station Eleven by Emily St. John Mandel.  I'd seen it on a lot of best book blogs/lists and decided to put it on hold at the library.  It came in and once I picked it up, I realized it was about the end of the world.  If you know me as a reader, you know this isn't my genre.  I was hesitant to start it, but I'm glad I did because sometimes going out of your box is a good thing.  I've recommended it to some friends and they have both enjoyed it.  Give it a shot.


Did you know there is a new Maisie Dobbs book out?  As you know, I love me some Maisie Dobbs, and I was actually counting the days until this was released.  A Dangerous Place by Jacqueline Winspear is the eleventh of the series, and I read this book over spring break at the beach.  It was the perfect book to read by the ocean with my coffee on a beautiful day.  It may not have received as good of reviews as Maisie Dobbs fans would have hoped, but who doesn't love a lady detective in pre-World War II Europe standing on her own two feet after personal tragedy?


A book I was excited about last fall was Euphoria by Lily King.  I was in a place where I couldn't concentrate on much, so this was in a stack of about five books in a row I couldn't get into, which is very uncommon for me.  Luckily, I tried again, and I am so glad I did.  I really enjoyed Euphoria and keep thinking about the characters.  The three main characters are based loosely on Margaret Mead, her husband, and another anthropologist of the 1930's.  It takes place in New Guinea and definitely describes a setting where I don't have a lot of background knowledge.  The story was great and I feel like I learned something.  Read it.

A few others I have read in the last few months are Funny Girl by Nick Hornby (okay, but not that great - it was an easy read which I needed at the time), Migratory Animals by Mary Helen Specht (a novel of college friends growing up and dealing with hardship - liked it but not one that has stuck with me), and Dept. of Speculation by Jenny Offill (another book I tried months ago, couldn't get into, but kept seeing on different books lists - I gave it another shot, didn't love it, and was happy it was a quick read).

One thing I actually enjoy about my commute is listening to audio books.  In fact, I think this morning was the first time in several months that I didn't have one to listen to and I felt like I was missing something.  I just listened to the first part of Boys Adrift by Leonard Sax (I have his other one called Why Gender Matters on hold right now at the library).  The first half of the book was really awesome and made me think about a lot of things differently in terms of parenting and teaching.  I wish I could remember more details about it, but one lesson I am still carrying with me is that Trey is spending more time outside.  I also just finished the Rosie Effect by Graeme Simsion which is a sequel to the Rosie Project.  It's a fun novel about a man with autism who questions his ability to be a dad.  He's a pretty stereotypical Asperger's man and he's also pretty funny.  It was a good listen.


One of the better audiobooks I have experienced lately is Being Mortal by Atul Gawande.  My school counselor recommended it and for the first three discs, I'd come into our office daily and say, "Why did you like this book about old people and nursing homes so much?" and he'd say, "It's about more than that."  I kept listening and I felt like I really appreciated it at the end.  He really makes you think about quality of life and priorities and how you want to live as you age and lose the ability to live independently and sometimes make independent decisions.  I'll admit it made me think a lot about my dad and some of the things he is dealing with as he gets older.  I think one of the lessons I learned from this book is something to the effect of "decide what brings you joy and then live that way."  He said it a lot more eloquently than that, of course.

I've got some good ones on my stack too.  I'm reading Life, Animated right now which is pretty amazing and next up is the second in the Jane Smiley trilogy called Early Warning and then a novel I'm super looking forward to called After Birth.  And don't forget the new Ann Packer book which I can't wait for but my library holds keep coming in! Happy reading, everyone.  Six weeks until summer!