Monday, March 23, 2015

Read, Cook, and Rest

Spring break is here and I couldn't be happier.  People keep asking me what we have going on and I want to shout with glee, "Nothing!!!"  It's going to be a mellow week around the Clarks and that is a-okay with me.  I want to read, cook, and rest, and if I get to see some friends and watch some shows on the DVR inbetween, then even better.

The weeks of March leading up to spring break felt all-consuming with work.  I'm not sure if it's a good thing or a bad thing to wake up first thing in the morning thinking about work, working all day, bringing work home with me, working at night, and thinking about work and my to do list the several times I wake up in the middle of the night.

Let's just say I was ready for spring break.

In the past few weeks we had a quick visit from Grandma Carmen and Grandpa Doug, Declan's birthday party, and a trip to Eugene.  Trey had a dentist appointment (thank god for my husband who took him to spare me the pain of the bad news of his cavities), and I had a fun happy hour with Jen and Sarah.  Random events, I know, but those are the highlights.

I know you working parents know what I'm talking about, but I can't express enough how much I hate the weeknight grind.  Home by 5 or 530, try to get dinner on the table by 6, start bedtime at 7, and get some schoolwork done inbetween.  I try to spend quality time with Trey, but it is really difficult, and there tends to be too much screen time on weeknights.  By the time I get Trey down to bed (later than I'd like), I'm too tired to even watch tv.  All I want to do is go to bed, read a little, and go to sleep.  I've been trying to remember some of the tips that Brigid Schulte recommends in Overwhelmed: Work, Love, and Play When No One Has the Time.  I would like to check email and do social media in batches of time rather than spread throughout the day (so far, that hasn't been working).  I'd also like to follow the suggestion of carrying a little notebook with me to write down thoughts, worries, or things to do.  Right now I have a lot of those thoughts while I'm driving and the best I can do is a voice memo on my iPhone.  She also mentions taking time to pause and thinking about what is most important...to me that is most definitely Trey.




Last weekend we went to Eugene to see my dad and Sandy and to go to my uncle's funeral.  My mom's oldest brother, Lloyd, passed away a month ago, and the family had a memorial for him in Eugene.  We drove down on Saturday morning, spent the afternoon at my dad and Sandy's, and went to dinner with Sarah, Chris, and the kids.  Sunday we had a relaxing morning at my dad and Sandy's, went to lunch at Hop Valley, and then went to Uncle Lloyd's memorial.  It was good to see family and spend time remembering Lloyd.

Riding the merry-go-round with Sarah and the kids

Video games with Dad 

Lloyd's memorial was at the Sons of Norway lodge in Eugene where my grandparents belonged.  This picture of my grandmother was on the wall.  She must have been on the board or something.

Here is a picture of my mom and her two brothers that I have in my photo collage in my hallway.  My mom's brother Jerry (Sandy's husband who passed away in 2002) is on the left, and her brother Lloyd is on the right.  My mom loved her family, and I know she wished that she saw them more than she did.

Midway through the first real day of spring break.  I've done chores, finished my first book, had Mindy and Camille over for pizza and cookie decorating, and am watching Downton Abbey from a month ago.  Spring break rocks.

Sunday, March 1, 2015

The rest of February plus what I've been reading

A long time ago, I took this picture of a t-shirt that one of my students was wearing because I thought it was a) hilarious and b) a good indicator of a child with a learning disability.  The kid didn't even understand why I thought it was funny which made it even funnier to me.  I know.  I'm terrible.


Fast forward to a few weeks ago when one of my students came in wearing this shirt.  I thought it was awesome.  So many teachers call kids who struggle in the classroom lazy, and for me "lazy" is a huge red flag that something else is going on.  Kids, by nature, are not lazy.  They work for reward just like adults do whether that be intrinsic or extrinsic.  When a child is labeled as "lazy," my ears perk up and I start listening.


The month of February flew by, and I can't believe that it's March.  Spring time is just around the corner, and everyone I know is ecstatic.  The winter was pretty mild in Portland; in fact, I read that February was the warmest we've had on record.  I think what I'm enjoying most is the extra daylight in the mornings and after work.

Randy and I have been spending a lot of time with Curt and his daughter Ana.  We are so glad to have them back in town, and we look forward to seeing even more of them.  On this day, we went to Ecliptic Brewing and I took this picture to send to Steve, our friend who is coming to visit later this month.  Ecliptic will be new to Steve, and I can't wait to introduce him.


I know I've written about the sunrises before, but they continue to amaze me.  The only downside of it getting lighter earlier is that I'm missing the sunrises.  One day I was in a bit of a morning daze but walked out of my garage to see this.  Wow.


Then just down the road, I actually pulled over into a neighborhood to take this picture.  I'm sure glad I did because as soon as I hit Sherwood I was socked in by clouds and fog for the rest of the drive.


One night Trey came out to say good night to Randy, climbed into his lap, snuggled in, and...

Watched this.  Ewwwwww... a boy after his daddy's heart.


Last Sunday we went wine tasting with Kris and John.  I know, shocking.  It was a gorgeous day to be outside, and we started at Archery Summit.


Drinking wine outside in February?  Amazing. 

Ted, Sara, and Silas came to meet us in Carlton for some more wine drinking.   We went to Troon (highly disappointed), Barking Frog (we've been there enough times the lady asked if I was a wine club member), and Folin Cellars (one of our favorites).

 Trey was so happy Silas was there, and the two of them had a great time.

 A sunny day and drinking wine with these guys...almost felt like we were back in Hawaii.  Almost.  

 These two are the cutest.

My love 

If you're a faithful follower of my blog (or my boy), you know that he loves his little figures.  First it was Sesame Street, then Mickey Mouse (and all things Disney), and now it's Super Heroes and Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles.  I cannot tell you how many hours I have spent sitting on the floor with this kid making up voices and stories using his little figures.  I love his imagination, but I am kinda over it.


Today Trey and I went to swimming lessons and then spent the morning at Julie and Tim's.  We enjoyed some donuts, mimosas, and even some outside play time.  I thought it would interfere with my ability to be productive this afternoon, but I was able to rally and got a lot done.   Monday morning will be here too soon, but it was a beautiful sunny weekend, so I'm recharged, refreshed, and ready for another week of work!


I feel like I've been doing a lot of reading lately, but when I look at my book list, it doesn't seem to be getting much longer.  Maybe I feel like I've read more because I'm always listening to an audio book and so I'm getting double the content with half the reading...who knows.

All the Light We Cannot See by Anthony Doerr has been on a ton of book lists and mentioned by many as one of the best books of 2014.  I bought my own copy (this doesn't happen very often because I use the library for most of my reading) because it was just so beautiful and felt so great when I picked it up.  This book is the perfect example of why I don't think I'll ever read on a tablet.  I love the feel of a book way too much.  As for this book, I felt really uncomfortable while I read it because of the suffering the children went through during World War II.  I thought the writing was exquisite and I enjoyed the back and forth between narrators/stories, but ever since Trey was born, I have trouble reading or watching about children in any sort of pain, physical or emotional.  I will say that looking back on the book after I have finished it that I like it a lot more as a reading experience than I did when I was actually reading it.


I use the Beaverton City Library a lot.  And I mean A LOT.  I am probably there at least once a week if not more (and definitely more during the summer).  I am constantly managing my holds, checking due dates, and putting new things on hold.  Just today I read a book review on Twitter from the New York Times and went straight to the Beaverton library app on my phone and put it on hold.   So anyway, I love a good pick up.  This day was especially great because not only did I get an audiobook I had been looking forward to, but also a book I was excited to read.  Neither was a disappointment.


Boys on the Boat has been recommended to me many times, and, for me, it was the perfect audiobook.  I love listening to nonfiction and reading it puts me to sleep faster than I'd like to admit (which is sort of funny considering how much trouble I have sleeping...hey, maybe I should read more nonfiction), so a great nonfiction book is a great audiobook for me.  This one was great and I was bummed when it was over.

The Book of Unknown Americans by Cristina Henriquez was a book I must have found somewhere on a book blog or list that I follow.  I'm not sure how I came across it, but I was looking forward to reading it because I like reading about other cultures.  This was about a family of immigrants who moved to the US so their daughter could receive a better education after receiving a traumatic brain injury.  The chapters alternate between narrators, and I appreciated reading about the perspective of recent immigrants as they enter our country.

The last book in that stack was suggested to me because it is about only having one child and the benefits of being an only child.  I skimmed parts of it, but I didn't read much of it (bor-ing) and returned it to the library pretty quickly.

Some other books I have read recently include Lay it on my Heart which was good enough for me to finish but not good enough for me to remember much what it was about.  Life Drawing by Robin Black was really good and about a couple who moved to a rural part of their state whose life was turned upside down by a neighbor moving it.  It was an honest portrait of their marriage, infidelity, and forgiveness, and I really enjoyed it.   I just finished Some Luck by Jane Smiley a few days ago, and that was my favorite in a while.  I am sort of a prairie book junkie, and I often forget how much I like a good farm book until I read one again.  This was the first in a trilogy and the second one comes out in April.  I can't wait to read how the story of this family continues.



As for audiobooks, I listened to the Lena Dunham book (blech - no idea why it has gotten so much press and I really have no idea why I listened to the whole thing) and I listened to Whole Brain Child by Daniel Siegel.  I think that this philosophy of parenting and raising your child with the brain in mind has impacted me more than any other parenting advice or wisdom.  It just makes so much sense to me, and I probably reference it in my mind at least a few times a week.  Right now I am listening to Food: A Love Story by Jim Gaffigan and it is laugh out loud funny.  I don't think it's something I would want to spend time reading, but listening to it is well worth it.  

Tomorrow is a big day for three important people in my life who are all dealing with cancer.  Somehow they are all having scans or MRIs and are anxiously awaiting news about how things are going.  Please send positive thoughts to the universe for good results from these tests.

Girls' weekend 2015

Last year I was lucky to get away for the weekend with two of my besties and my sister, and this year we were lucky to get to do it again!  Sarah, Sarah, Julie and I headed over to Cannon Beach on Saturday of President's Day weekend (which also happened to be Valentine's Day) and spent two nights at Sarah's mom's beach house.  The weather was perfect, and it was nice to get away from the grind for a few days.

me with Sarah and Sarah, friends since 1992

Julie and I, sisters since 1979

Aren't they so cute?

Sunday morning I walked down to the beach with my book and my coffee.  It was unseasonably warm and not very windy, so it was perfect.  I was feeling a little reflective because I had found out that my extended family in Eugene was having to make some very difficult decisions about my uncle, my mom's oldest brother.  Whenever I know someone who loses a parent, it always takes me back to the days when we lost my mom and saddens me because I know they are just at the beginning of their journey through grief.  

Pretty ironic book title for how I was feeling that weekend... 

Sunday we went into the town of Cannon Beach and did some shopping and had lunch.  You can see how glorious the sky was.  If you live in Oregon, you know that these days at the coast do not happen very often.  We were so happy.


When we got back to the house, we all just wanted to sit out in the sun and read.  Not a very thrilling weekend away for some, but the four of us were so happy to get some peace and quiet that sitting in the sun reading our books was heavenly.

Umm, yes, that's Sarah sitting in a TANK TOP in the Oregon coast in February.   

Even Julie is reading!  

Randy took Trey on some adventures while I was gone, and I got these two pictures texted to me.

What cuties 

Love him 

Just like last year, we enjoyed a weekend night in with our puzzle and drinks.

This puzzle was actually quite difficult and we didn't finish it.  Gasp! 

Sunday night we went down to the beach to watch the sunset and then got take-out for dinner to go with our margaritas.  Then, Sarah and I forced Sarah and Julie to watch three hours of the Bachelor with us. Sorry, girls.




Monday morning we took another walk before we headed home.  I just can't get over how magnificent the weather was.



Even though the weekend away was fabulous, I was excited to get home to this:

Trey is his fort of Randy's float tube and a million blankets and stuffed animals.  
Is it still in our living room two weeks later?  
Yes, as a matter of fact it is...

Happy 2nd Birthday to Case!

A few weeks ago, we had a weekend filled with family time.  Case, my youngest nephew, turned two, so we had lots of time with Julie's family over the weekend.

Friday was Case's actual birthday, so we went to Julie's house for pizza and cupcakes.  It's just so hard to believe that Baby Case is now a little boy who is soaking in new things like a sponge.

Happy birthday to Case! 

Yummy cupcakes! 

Three Batmans celebrating Case's birthday
You'll notice by the end of this post that Trey is in a 
"I just want to be in my underwear" stage.

On Saturday we babysat Grady and Case for a few hours while Julie helped her friend move.  The boys had a lot of fun together, and they were great helpers while I made sugar cookies to decorate later. I think by the end of the day I had over 10,000 steps on my fitbit and I didn't even go anywhere.  It was a busy busy day.

Someone from this trio (hint: on the left) LOVES trains.
I thought this would've kept his busy until Randy got out the Hot Wheels.
Then Case was really in heaven. 

It is nearly impossible to get all three boys to look at the same time. 

Case could've played with the Hot Wheels all day. 

Priceless 

This may be one of the first pictures ever 
with all three boys looking at the camera at the same time.  

Note to self: don't put Grady in charge of the mixer after adding flour. 

Saturday night we had Lily and Johnny over for dinner with my dad and Sandy.  The kids are my cousin's children, and we have been spending time with them and getting to know them better.  We had dinner together as a family and then decorated Valentine's Day cookies.

Johnny (being silly), Lilly, and Trey frosting cookies

Sunday was Case's birthday party at Julie's house.


What a cool Thomas the Train cake made by Deena!