Sunday, November 30, 2014

Blue sky, mountains, and butterflies

Okay, you guys, you know when there is so much shit going on that all you want to do is hug your kid and give him everything he wants?   That's how the last few weeks have been.  I'm sitting here on a sunny, albeit cold, Sunday looking out my window with my boy sitting in his "thinking chair" (thanks Blue's Clues) using the iPad, and gazing at the bright blue sky and Mt. Hood in the distance. 

What you can't tell from this picture is how blue the sky is or the mountain in the distance...it's right between that break in trees.  This stained glass is from my mom's friend Kaye and is in memory of her.  It's one of my most cherished possessions.  

We have Christmas music on the tv and I'm extra happy thanks to the spiked cider I am drinking.  I really need to go to the grocery store, but all I want to do is cuddle with my boy, enjoy the solitude, and relish the moment.  

I came home last week to this.  My boy all dressed up for winter not to mention his Doc McStuffins stethoscope and his Elmo backpack...and his furry hat that he picked out at REI.  It looks funny, but it's cute as hell.

Here's a moment where I held on to my boy and never wanted to let go.  Why, you ask?  These past few weeks have reminded me of how precious life is and how one needs to let go of the little things and cherish the big ones.  My best friend, Nyree, has learned that her ten year old daughter, Madi, has two brain tumors and will start undergoing treatment this next week.  You can follow her journey here if you want.  I'm still in shock and it just doesn't feel real.  The prognosis is good and the doctors have said this is the best kind of brain tumor to get if you get a brain tumor.  I suppose that is all good news, but it doesn't change the fact that Madi has cancer.  I have missed my mom so much these past few weeks and wished that she was here to support Nyree (and me) through this difficult time.

Trey used to love Yo Gabba Gabba, so when Groupon had tickets on sale, I picked up a few for the two of us to go see Yo Gabba Live.  We had a fun night out downtown, but the show was pretty disappointing compared to last time.  Of course, from my four year old's perspective, it was "awesome" but I'm here to tell you that it was terrible.

Nighttime in the Park Blocks 

Dinner at Elephants' 

Mommy and Trey time at the Schnitz 

Yo Gabba Live!

Trey on his "stage" during intermission

Zander had his birthday party at a trampoline place, and I wasn't sure how adventurous Trey would be.  Needless to say, his brave spirit amazed me, and I was so proud of him.  Not only did he have fun on the trampolines, but he LOVED the foam pit.  I think he spent the entire time jumping into and climbing out of the foam pits.  It was awesome.




Those are his feet, if you can't tell.


Celebrating Zander
10 years old 

Sunday, November 23rd, would have been my mom's 70th birthday.  I have been formulating a post about my mom and her birthday, but I don't have it in me right now.  We had a family breakfast at our house with my dad and Sandy, and then Julie, Sandy, and I went wine tasting.  It was a good day, and I'll keep thinking about that post about my mom.  She deserves it.




 And wrapping up with a picture of the dog...
I could do without Bailey, but he sure loves his father.  And loves attention.  I guess I should cherish that when I have it.

Sunday, November 16, 2014

Catching up

November really is the month for being thankful, isn't it?  I guess every month should be one in which to be thankful, but November, bringing the beginning of the holiday season and Thanksgiving, is a good way to remember what is important.  So far this month has brought a good balance of social time, productivity, and relaxation.  I've been having to relearn how to prioritize my to do list and get everything done during the week (I really REALLY miss being able to run errands during the work day), and I think it has been going okay.  The house is clean (sort of), we are eating meals every night (pretty much), I am in pretty frequent contact with friends (thank god for texting), I spend a lot of time with Trey (love him), and I've been reading a lot (see below).  

Kris and John got a new puppy a few weeks ago (do you ever feel like everything happened "a few weeks ago"?) and we went by for a visit.  As much as Trey has been around dogs all of his life, puppies kind of freak him out.  This little guy is freaking adorable and we love him already.  Kris told us yesterday that he has already gained seven pounds since they got him, so we are definitely due for another visit.   Meet Cooper, the cutest puppy ever.  





I'm sure everyone loves their child as much as I love mine (but do they?  really?), but words cannot express how much I am loving on my boy right now.  He is at such a great age, and we have been having so much fun together.  His constant learning, questions, and vocabulary astound me, and there are many times when Randy and I just look at each other and either raise our eyebrows in astonishment or laugh at something silly that Trey did.  The other night we were reading a book and Trey pointed to a word on the page and said, "Zap!"  I kept reading and then paused and said, "How did you know that said zap?"  He said, "Because it says Z-A-P with a question mark.  No, a straight question mark."  What????  I'm still not sure if that was a word he memorized or something he really read, but I'm still amazed.  I've been teaching him some words as we read, and he does remember them.  I could probably bring home the materials I am using at school with some first graders and teach him to read this year, but I am trying not to be "that mom."



After 16 hours of parent-teacher conferences (an exhausting experience but one that I actually really like), we drove to Eugene for the weekend.  We hadn't been there in a while, and Trey was really excited to go.  It was great to see my dad and Sandy as well as other family, and it was also nice to have a few days away.


On Saturday we spent A LOT of time (and I mean A LOT) like this.  I got through a bunch of my novel, and Trey enjoyed A LOT of screen time.  I felt a little guilty about it, but we rarely have days like this, so I tried to enjoy it (which I did).


On the way to Erika's for a family dinner/birthday party, I pretty much threw Grandpa Gerts under the bus and took him and Trey to Target.  Grandpa said he'd buy Trey a new toy, and Trey was in heaven.  He picked out a Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles toy (of course), and he was over the moon happy.


Last week was a crazy week.  Monday I went to happy hour with old friends from Woodburn and had a great time.  It is such a blessing that we are all still in touch with each other.  Tuesday was a holiday and I had a perfect day with my boy.  That night Adam came into town to defend his dissertation at the University of Oregon.  He stayed with us and it was so good to see him.  He left before dawn on Wednesday to drive to Eugene, and of course he rocked it at his presentation.  Wednesday night we got a sitter so we could go out and celebrate the new doctor.  Nice work, my friend!


Thursday was a day off from school because the whole region freaked out about snow and ice that never came, and I had an unexpected day home with my boy.  I also am/was fighting a cold, so it was nice to have a slow and quiet day.  It was also a day that changed the lives of some people who are very close to me and I still feel in a daze about that (more on that at a later date - this isn't the blog post for that).  Friday I was still in a daze and also feeling crappy from my cold, so I took a half day and came home sick. I actually fell asleep on my couch.  In the middle of the afternoon.  I honestly do not know the last time I took a nap during the day.

Yesterday, we spent the majority of the day running errands and getting crap done around the house.  I had some clam chowder in the slow cooker (didn't like how it turned out), and Julie and Tim and the boys came over for dinner.  Trey has been bugging me about making a birthday cake for his stuffed animals, so yesterday he said, "Can we make a cake for my boys and girls?"  I said, "Sure," and he said, "Really????"  We baked a cake (Julie asked later if it was from scratch - bwah hah ha ha ha) and Trey sat here for almost the entire time it was in the oven.


My boy gathered all of the decorations for his special cake.
I didn't take a picture of the final product, 
but the frosting was orange and he used all of these sprinkles.
It was(n't) pretty.

I've been in a bit of a book slump lately, but I think I've come out of it.  After at least five books that I put aside after starting (very unusual for me), I have finally come upon a string of great books.  I usually manage my holds at the library pretty well, but all three of these came in at once.  Do you think I can read them in three weeks?  Ummmm, probably not.


This was the last good book I read before my slump...

The library had it marked as "mystery" and when I turned it in, I actually told the librarian that they should reclassify it.  Yes, that's me.  That person.  Granted, this book is about a death, but it's not really a mystery.  It is more about a family in the mid-70's who doesn't know each other well, and the story of their daughter's death is how the family's story is unraveled.  It's a great book and so well written.  I highly recommend.

I read Goldfinch this summer and didn't love it (hell, I didn't even like it).  This book came up on a list of 30 books to read before you're 30 (I know I've missed that mark), and I thought I'd give it a shot.  Donna Tartt really is an excellent writer (I will agree that Goldfinch was well written, just a terrible story), and this novel was such a breath of fresh air after the several books I started and put aside.

This was one of the holds that came in at once, and I knew it took the longest to get, so I thought I would read it first.  It's not going to win any awards and, for me, borders on what I like to call grocery store fiction, but it read fast and was enjoyable.  In fact, on Thursday, our no-snow snow day, I read over 300 pages.  I'd recommend it because it was a good quick read, but after reading the Secret History, I almost felt a little dirty reading it.

This is what I'm reading now, and I can already tell that I'm going to like it.  Again, really well written, and a story that is different from what I'm used to.  From what I can tell (I'm only on page 30), it takes place in Nigeria, and I like stories that take me out of my norm.  I wish I had a little more background knowledge and visuals to go along with it, but maybe that's just the reading teacher in me talking.

Enough blogging for the day - I either have a book to read or laundry to put away.  A quarter to each of you who guesses correctly what I'm going to do...

Turtle Treat!

Trey changed his mind about a bazillion times about what he wanted to be for Halloween (usually was some type of Super Hero), so I told him the Friday before Halloween that he needed to make a final choice.

He was leaning towards Superman, and we were looking on Amazon when he discovered Leonardo, a Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle.  Sigh.  I'm not a fan of the turtles (I think they are way too aggressive and violent.  I usually don't care about these things, but this is an exception.  I felt validated a few weeks ago when a parent of one of Trey's friends from preschool said that watching the show gives her son nightmares.  I KNEW there was a reason that I don't let Trey watch that show.), but he was adamant about it.

Before there were costumes, there was pumpkin carving, of course.




Trey's preschool had a costume party on Friday.  I guess he wasn't the only Ninja Turtle.


Friday night we braved the rain and went trick-or-treating with Grady and Case and Deena's son Coen.  Luckily, it only rained on us for about 10 minutes before letting up.


Trey, Case, and Grady 

"Turtle Treat!" was what Trey said every time the door opened.  



As soon as we got home, Trey dumped his candy out in a pile and sorted through it.  How do they learn to do this?  It must be an innate skill.


I was looking for a picture for Trey in our old photo albums and found these from 1978.  I don't know if this would be a very PC costume these days...



Hope everyone had a great Halloween!  If you want any extra candy, we still have a lot at the Clark house!

Disney on Ice

A few weeks ago, Mindy and I took the kids to Disney on Ice.  I think I'm still a little traumatized by my Disney Live experience at Disneyland, so I'll do what I can to make it up to Trey (even though he probably doesn't even remember).  Trey was super excited to see the show, and I will say that it didn't disappoint.

One mama brings popcorn from home 
and one spends gold on a bag of popcorn... 
I think the child on the left was happier.

Trey has never seen ice skaters before, and I think it was fun for him to see a new kind of show where the characters weren't just on stage.  It was a great production and he seemed to love every minute.




This is the look of two kids who just duped their moms into 
really expensive intermission treats.   




Here's Trey's expression when the Toy Story characters came on to the ice. 



It was worth every cent, and, don't tell Trey, but Disney Live is coming in January, and I bought tickets for that too!